Looks-Focused Men Avenged!

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*NOTE: TONGUE-IN-CHEEK POST AHEAD*

According to two different studies, men who marry women who are better looking than they are report being more happy with their marriage - AND, being in a happy marriage reduces your blood pressure.

So, men with high blood pressure - be sure to find yourself a woman who is better lookin' than you.  ;-)

Ladies, don't take offense - look at it as a gift of kindness to help them reduce their blood pressure.  ;-)

Studies:

From BYU: Happy Marriage = Lower Blood Pressure

From Journal of Family Psychology: Happiness Created by Pairing of Ugly Men and Beautiful Women

UPDATE:

Here is a video clip with a debate about one of these studies, and more regarding men, women, and relationships. Nothing gets resolved, but it is a great illustration of some of the attitudes in the world. In the comments section, be sure to leave feedback about the debate in this video - do you agree with either viewpoint?

Good Matches According to Dr House

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On the show House, Dr Gregory House sees a patient’s wife and has a conversation with her about how their integers are mismatched. His theory is that 4’s marry 4’s, 7’s marry 7’s and 9’s marry 9’s. He tells her that she has at least 3 numbers on him, so she must have married him for some ulterior motive.

Now, in the show (this is also the one in which Dr House gets shot) it is also discussed how, to him, everything is connected. This ties in with his integer theory with the wife.

So, according to Dr House’s theory of matching integers making good matches, on a scale of 1-10:

What are you?
What was your former spouse when you married?
What were they when you divorced?
What were you when you divorced?

If you were not married, apply it to your last big breakup.
If you are widowed, apply the marriage questions, not the divorce ones.

Did a change in physical appearance in either or both of you affect your marriage or precipitate your divorce?

What are you now on a scale of 1-10?
What integer(s) do you ask out or seek dates with?
What integer(s) ask you out or seek your time and attention/dates with you?

Since I rarely get the attention of 9-10’s and get a lot of date requests and attention from 7’s and 8’s, does this mean I am a 7 or 8?

Is there something to the integer theory?
Does it apply equally to men and women, or is one gender more driven by it?

What do YOU think?

'Preferences' Vs 'Shallow Attitude'

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On another site, yet again the battle raged on about the shallow attitude some have in dating, and in life in general; and the justifications, rationalizations, and excuses were flying like mad. What irritated me most was people trying to use the gospel as a means of justifying their bad behavior and attitude.

First, let me say that there is a huge difference between having a preference and being shallow. A preference is just that. It is a preference. It is open-ended. It is open-minded. It is NOT judgmental, it is a part of having the ability to choose and finding something we LIKE better than other choices in that category. It doesn't mean we don't like other things or that we think only this one thing is 'good' and all other thing are 'bad'. It is just the thing that is tops on that particular list.

Shallow is an completely different matter. Shallow involves being judgmental. It is saying one thing is good and all other things are bad; or that one particular thing is bad while all the other things are good. It is using something very superficial as a means of determining the worth or value of something or someone.

For example, if you have a 'preference' for blondes, that just means blonde hair appeals to you more than brunette hair. You will still date brunettes, and you don't see anything about blonde men/women as being 'better' than brunette men/women. You just find yourself more attracted to blonde hair than brown hair. No biggie.

Shallow is when you believe that only blondes are worth dating; that they are superior to their brunette counterparts. Shallow is when you believe brunettes are somehow deficient or not worthwhile simply by merit of having brown hair.

See the difference?

So, when the debate ensued, my dander got up and this is the resulting rant (which I did not post there, but saved to use as my blog here:

I am sick to death of the excuse that 'well that is just how men/women are'. That is total BS. Regardless of what any of us as individuals deal with on a primal coding level, we, each and every one of us, have a divine responsibility to become more than we are; and to do all we can to overcome our baser natures, and strive to become more eternally and celestially-minded.

I am so sick of this member-endorsed but doctrinally incorrect malarkey that regularly gets spewed and further propagated.

Ya got preferences, cool. But don't blame the church for your shallow attitude. And, yes, there is a difference between preferences and a shallow attitude.

If you are putting shallow wish list items ahead of those things of eternal value, guess what: Yes, you are indeed being shallow and displaying incorrect priorities and values. Either embrace it or change it; but don't tell those who point this out or are different that they are being 'intolerant' or are 'wrong'. You are doctrinally in the wrong. Deal with it.

Oh, and if you are interested in someone who won't give you the time of day because you don't match their 'shallow' wish list, or their 'preferences' (again: two different things). .. MOVE ON. Stop complaining, whining, bashing them, and nagging them to 'change'.

They are who and what they are; just as you are who and what YOU are. Clearly the two of you are not a match, so find someone who isn't shallow, and has a person like YOU on their wish list.

You'll be more apt to find an eternal match that way.


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