There is a saying about how 'it takes two', which is frequently used in the context of how a divorce is the fault of both marital partners.
I think something which gets overlooked is that while it does indeed take BOTH to MAKE a relationship work; one person can 'check out' and effectively end the relationship right then and there. If one person quits or leaves there is not one thing the other person can do to change it. Only the one who has quit or left can make the difference. They have to choose to try again and contribute.
Occasionally there will be times when one person is struggling and the other partner has to carry the load for a bit. That is a very natural part of a relationship. . .as long as it doesn't last too long. It is a very different thing from the total 'check out' scenario I referred to above.
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